The 24/7 Lifestyle and Restoring Our Soul


The 24/7 Lifestyle and Restoring Our Soul

After watching Deepak Chopra's 2015 speech at the Emerge conference I started thinking about what he asked. "How do you measure the mind? The physical manifestation of the mind is the body...when you say soul?...fundamentally it is a connection to the field of awareness and in that awareness we have experience. Experience is life. We have core consciousness which is just a field of awarenss. In awareness we have experiences-the subjective experiences we call our minds and the objective experiences we call our body and the experience of the physical world.. He continues by saying that, "Experiences are already happening in the field of awareness" and that when we probe deeply into nature of awareness awareness is not space and time." It sits outside of space and time. We-our soul- sit outside of space and time.

In his studies he and other scientists have proven that as we go inward we go into a space of timelessness. We experience a complete shift in body. Our cells stop aging and grey matter in our brain increases. Deepak's comment that, "Biological regeneration as a result resurrecting our soul." stuck with me for days. If we are fields of awareness we sit outside of space and time and the connecting point is meditation. Sitting.

Deepak talks about the five pillars of well-being as part of Self-Directed Biological Transformation Initiative he is working on at the University of California San Diego and they are:

Sleep - purpose to eliminate psychological detox and bodily detox

Meditation - process of renewal

Exercise - process of movement which has been proven to work no matter the intensity

Emotions - understanding where emotions (like resentment, guilt, and shame) reside and how to release them

Food - the power of removing manufactured, petroleum and antibiotic filled foods from our bodies as these foods tinker with our DNA

From my own practice I knew the power of all five pillars. For the past year I have slowly been removing myself from the 24/7 world. I jumped off of Facebook and LinkedIn. Stopped tweeting. Stopped creating my personal brand on Pinterest and Instagram. Turned my phone and anything with a blue light off at 9:00 PM. Took my four televisions into the garage for the upcoming donations. Cleaned out my closets of anything made in places that require indentured or enslaved people to make them. Cleared out my kitchen of foods with names I couldn't pronounce. Went back to my trusted leather Filofax instead of my iCalendar. My days expanded. My nights expanded. My interior life expanded. My social life...not so much. I realized that what I considered indulgences to others were absolute necessities of a 24/7 lifestyle.

While I slowed down and expanded others sped up and constricted. "How dare I be so selfish as to stop posting pictures and make my life private." In the book, 24/7: Late Capitalism and the Ends of Sleep Jonathan Crary according to his blurb, "explores some of the ruinous consequences of the expanding non-stop processes of twenty-first-century capitalism. The marketplace now operates through every hour of the clock, pushing us into constant activity and eroding forms of community and political expression, damaging the fabric of everyday life."

We think that we are in community when we join one Facebook closed group after another.

Let me ask you this?

Are we going for coffee with them?

Are we taking a walk on the beach with them?

We are in pretend world - we are in the depths of space and time. And that space and time takes space and time away from daydreaming, imagining, and sleep/dream time - all moments of spacelessness and timelessness - all necessities postioned as indulgeneces.

The Amazon blurb goes on to say that the book "examines how this interminable non-time blurs any separation between an intensified, ubiquitous consumerism and emerging strategies of control and surveillance. He (the author) describes the ongoing management of individual attentiveness and the impairment of perception within the compulsory routines of contemporary technological culture. At the same time, he shows that human sleep, as a restorative withdrawal that is intrinsically incompatible with 24/7 capitalism, points to other more formidable and collective refusals of world-destroying patterns of growth and accumulation."

So back to sleep, meditation, exercise, emotions, and food. Necessities or indulgences for restoring our soul? For me the answer is clear. Now to open to community that believes the same so my social life can expand again.


Your Body as a Verb


Your Body as a Verb

What would it look like if we thought of our body as a verb instead of a noun? We already know that there is a body/mind connection and that there is no duality. There is no body separate from the mind nor mind separate from the body. The body is the mind and the mind embodies the body in every cell, in every DNA strand, in every genome, and in every microbial cell.

Bodi Deliberato, a plant-based triathlete writes in Hippocrates Health Institute's Healing Our World magazine that according to the Human Microbiome Project, the total number of microbial cells found in humans may exceed the total number of human cells by a factor of 10:1.

What does this mean in terms of thinking about the body as a verb instead of a noun?

It means we have all the knowledge within us and all our thoughts and emotions effect our body's constant evolution or degeneration. The body as a verb is "bodying." It's evolving shifting, moving, dancing, singing, expanding, contracting, eliminating, and ever changing. And thorough our beliefs, perceptions, emotions, stories, and foods-all inputs our body adapts and as our body adapts from these inputs it creates outputs such as chemicals, neurotransmitters, information that then we receive as additional inputs which has an effect on our physical, emotional, and spiritual body. Feed the body and the body feeds you.

Deepak Chopra said at the eMerge Miami Conference that he "brought the same luggage to this conference last year, but this year he brought a different body...Your body is a process; it's more like a verb, rather than a noun." You can watch Deepak's talk on YouTube. It's fascinating.

Each cell contains the original primordial stem cell from before you became yourself and it changes and is altered based on the beliefs you decide to keep. Stories. Back to stories. Stories are kept in each cell. Deepak states that "your mind is not in your brain." It is in each and every cell and in each and every strand of DNA which then contains each and every story of the primordial cells. It contains the universe-divine intelligence.

Back to the body as a verb and these microbial cells. Microbiomes are mostly held in the gut and the skin. Your gut is where your real brain is, unfiltered, unprocessed, and unaltered. This gut of ours know the truth for us. This "gut feeling" is raw, truer than true, and trustworthy. You skin is where the information comes through as well. Ever have your skin crawl when you walk into a space that just isn't right or have goose bumps or feel flushed?

These microbial cells, as they have not been filtered by our stories - the unconscious beliefs that we hold as true, are not manipulated as of yet and so can be trusted more so than anything else. Why? Because they are unfiltered and not yet manipulated by our verb body and I would say 'verbal' body have a direct link to the universal truths - divine intelligence! We are connected to source on a cellular, microbial, and even subatomic level.

Our gut is the epicenter of truth.

That is until we bring chemicals and toxic truly dead "foods" into our system. Our body ecosystem is a connects directly to divine intelligence through the gut. So what's for dinner again?



Dan Nevins: An Inspiration on How to Free Yourself


Dan Nevins: An Inspiration on How to Free Yourself

I came across the name Dan Nevins last summer. The New York Post article. In it he recounts how he was introduced to yoga. He said, "he was on a patrol during the Battle of Fallujah when an improvised explosive device, or IED, detonated, ejecting him and entangling his legs in his vehicle’s undercarriage.

“I thought I was going to die,” he said, adding that his partner was killed.

Nevins suffered a brain injury, lost one leg instantly and had to have the other amputated after 30 surgeries failed to save it.

He fell into depression, and a friend suggested he try the ancient discipline."

And then again this year. And I thought to myself, here's a bad-ass! He is double-amputee and he could have gone the route of so many others who come back from combat and get into the VA system of pills, more pills, little to no support in terms of counseling let alone coaching. And somehow he didn't.

He had the strength to free himself from his own demons and limitations. We all have that power. I watched my life fall apart while my husband dropped into the depths of depression after three tours of combat. And I watch now as some clients refuse to break through and look for that easy fix.

There is no easy fix. Life is easy and free when we do the daily practices and rituals that bring us to our truths. It's that simple.

In this recent article he says, "he's never let that hold him back and has biked across the country and climbed Mount Kilimanjaro. But it was yoga that helped Nevins address his emotional issues from post-combat stress.

He admits it took him a while to get hooked. At first Nevins found yoga painful and frustrating, but after he became comfortable taking off his prosthetics and got over what he calls the "man bun and spandex stereotype," he fell in love with it. Now he's an instructor, spreading the message that yoga really is for everyone and is an especially great outlet for veterans dealing with emotional stress.

Dan Nevins is an inspiration to us all. Bravo Dan for showing us the mirror of what pulling ourselves together, visualizing and doing the stuff that needs to be done, and not wallowing in the naval gazing of "what's my purpose?"

Our purpose is to live, to take the experiences life gives us, to move through them, and to bring a greater truth to our experiences by sharing our deepest darkest lessons with the world. Our purpose to move from surviving to thriving.

For some amazing inspirational photos of Dan in some spectacular yoga poses follow him on Instagram.

Thank you Dan for that reminder...I may just have to rethink my social media fast. xo, j



What is Mindfulness? Insights, Changes, Manifestations, & Choice


What is Mindfulness? Insights, Changes, Manifestations, & Choice

Mindfulness is often discussed in context with meditation and then inevitably the visual is sitting on a pillow, eyes closed, legs folded yogi-style, and hands in the quintessential mudra position of index finger to thumb.

Now before you go any further...I'm not poo-pooing the above visual.

It works for some but the problem with this visual is it prevents others from starting at all. "My legs don't bend like that." Or. "I can't just sit like that and mutter 'Om'." Or. "I'm not spiritual, I'm secular. I don't prescribe to any one religion."

Separate mindfulness from spirituality and you have what the Mindful Schools term, "a sit." Just sit. Sit in a chair, a sofa, the grass, the teeny tiny seat on the airplane. Have your eyes opened or closed. Sit. Breathe a couple of deep breaths and sit. Sit. Listen to your breath. Feel each part of your body. Notice the sounds around you. Notice the thoughts coming out. Sit. Sit in it. Mindfulness is not external. It's internal. It's noticing. It's sitting in what is right now. Irritated? Sit in it. Happy? Sit in it. Disgusted? Sit in it.




Do it everyday.

Do it for 15 minutes.

Do it again.

In the words of Nike, "Just do it."

Mind-Full-ness. Sit.

Mindfulness is the most important thing I have ever done with my life. EVER. EVER. EVER. It allows me to have space between the stimuli around me and my response. And in that is freedom. Freedom of choice and in that choice are changes, manifestations, and insights. Mindfulness isn't woo woo. It's essential. Your gift to you is mindfulness, doing the 'sit' today.


Coffee. It's Not Just For Drinking.


Coffee. It's Not Just For Drinking.

A couple of weeks ago I started the Prime Detox with my peer coach and about a week into it she felt a sharp pain, almost like sciatica, down her leg. The next day the same thing happened to me. It was excruciating. I had been drinking the tea and started the juicing. I knew this pain was toxins stuck in my liver. How? I just knew. I have a knack of understanding intuitively what's going on in my body and in the body of others. I decided I would compliment the protocol with juicing and I had strong urges to drink coffee so I did.


Now fast forward to this morning in meditation. And the name Gerson came up and coffee. So I researched her and to my surprise I learned about the Gerson Method created by her father Max in the 1930's to help cure himself of his severe migraines. His method cured people of cancer, gout, and several unnamed disease we now know as auto-immune illnesses like MS, Lupus, and Lyme. This method incorporates massive amounts of juicing, fresh vegetables, and vegetable based soups. I know the powerful healing effects of organic fruits and vegetables and its ability to reverse the effects of these illnesses. Here's what I didn't know. That juicing aka what you put into your body is merely 1/2 of a protocol. The other 1/2 is helping eliminate toxins. And here's where this method becomes interesting. Gerson found that while drinking coffee keeps you awake as it stimulates the blood vessels and has a positive effect on the liver by slowing the growth of fibroids coffee enemas keep the bile ducts open.

What does this mean? The coffee enema completes the total approach to healing the body system. Adding raw foods and juices allows for the intake of live enzymes and as that goes into the blood stream it invigorates the regeneration of cells. The blood goes to the liver and dumps all the toxins and the liver's job is to get rid of it. It cleans the blood. So having the bile ducts open helps the liver get rid of so much more toxicity.

The pain in my side was an overload of toxins in my liver. It was working as hard as it could and now that my blood was recharged with all these live enzymes it was working on overtime. The blood passes through the liver 4-5 times ever 15 minutes or so. My liver needed a boost. And the best way to jumpstart the liver is coffee...enemas.  


(W)Holomovement: We Are All Interconnected, Ever Evolving, And Whole


(W)Holomovement: We Are All Interconnected, Ever Evolving, And Whole

I was given a gorgeous book from my client by Michael Talbot, The Holographic Universe. And It's quite frankly blowing my mind. It's the theory of the holographic, actually holomovement universe. In it he explains the work of Bohm, a renown physicist and how he pushed the frontiers of Quantum Physics which Einstein referred to as the Black Magic of science (and as my son Red often says magic is merely science that has yet to be defined and explained-bravo son-makes total sense.) It explains the paranormal abilities of the mind, the riddles of the body/mind, and proof that the universe is a holograph in motion - a holomovement.


She was surprised I had never heard of it as in my book Four tenets of Love I put forth four tenets to living a life you love: let it flow, open up to infinite opportunities, view the world as a blank canvas (and more importantly as a mirror), and expand your awareness. I speak directly to the notion that the universe is interconnected and ever evolving and that we are one with the universe.


We are the universe.


We are interconnected and ever evolving.


We are not the sum of our parts.


We are whole. We are (w)holomovement.


We are not a leg, arm, eyes, and nose, we are an interconnected system that is ever evolving and interconnected. Blood is connected to lymph is connected to skeleton is connected to cells is connected to muscle is connected to memory is connected to DNA and is ever evolving. And just as we are whole, without being able to dissect and pull apart pieces without the wholeness following that part, the universe is whole and we are a non-separate part of that whole.


Michael Talbot says that, "In his general theory of relativity Einstein astounded the world when he said that space and time are not separate entities, but are smoothly linked and part of a larger whole he called the space-time continuum. Bohm takes this idea a giant step further. He says that everything in the universe is part of a continuum...Bohm cautions that this does not mean the universe is a giant undifferentiated mass. Things can be part of an undivided whole and still possess their own unique qualities. To illustrate what he means he points to the little eddies and whirlpools that often form in a river. At a glance such eddies appear to be separate things and possess many individual characteristics such as size, rate, and direction of rotation...careful scrutiny reveals that it is impossible to determine where any given whirlpool ends and the river begins...Constantly dividing various aspects of the holomovement into "things" is always an abstraction, a way of making those aspects stand out in our perception by our way of thinking."


We are one continuum. Time. Space. Movement. Perception.


Where one ends the other begins and at the subatomic level my arm and your arm and the chair have the same particles and are moving, enfolding and unfolding in a beautiful rhythmic symphony.


Like a whirlpool we fold over ourselves and others and pull others to us and repel others and are ever in motion down to the cellular level. Now what makes it shift and create blips in the ever forming ripples is our perception - our way of viewing what's in front of us, behind us, and projected into the future...time space continuum.


The story we remember is held in our cells and skews our perception of what's happening right now and begins to project a future - yet undetermined but morphing and forming based on our perception of what we think 'is.' This story is not real. It's a myth, a series of collected images, feeling, projections, and reinforcements. And yet as unreal as it is held in our very DNA. And consciousness is within that DNA and affects all other subatomic particles as it is made up of one. So even if we are individual our subatomic parts are interconnected. (Put that in a pipe and smoke's mind-bending and scary because if this is true we really are responsible for everything from the subatomic particles to DNA to society to the universe. No more I'm my genetics. Now its I unlocked my genetics. I unleashed the genie in the bottle. I created this!)


Talbot goes on to clarify Bohm's beliefs that "our almost universal tendency to fragment the world and ignore the dynamic interconnectedness of all things is responsible for many of our problems, not only in science but in our lives and our society as well...We believe we can extract the valuable parts of the earth without affecting the whole. We believe it is possible to treat parts of our body and not be concerned with the whole. We believe we can deal with various problems in our society, such as crime, poverty, and drug addiction, without addressing the problems in our society as a whole..."


We are a (w)holomovement. We are whole. We are one. And our consciousness affects everything at the subatomic level which affects the holomovement which affects us all.


So now what?


Understanding that at the subatomic level everything vibrates and that vibration resonates with like vibration, like attracts like, opens what I would liken to Pandora's Box of personal responsibility and societal expansion. As above so below rings at the most basic level of truth. The universal laws (Truths) need now be applied to our own personal lives. These universal truths are embodied us. And at the foundation, the notion that consciousness (subconsciousness, the 95% of the mind working in autopilot while the 5% ego mind runs the show) affects ALL subatomic particles in ALL the universe.


We create reality. We are a hologram held in suspense in a holomovement. We write the script, direct the play, hire the actors, and create the sets of our lives. You may say wait a second I did not create this disfunctional family, this cancer, this emotional trauma, this crime. Oh but you did and you do. We created this play even before we took our first breath. We decided what we wanted to discover, learn, work through, and we created the best scenario to do just that. And then once here we took inputs vibrations and resonated with certain frequencies and developed stories that became myths embedded in our very DNA.


The good news about responsibility is that we have choice and as we are a holomovement, ever-changing we can shift. We can enfold that which serves us and unfold out of that which doesn't. The cornerstones to wholeness in the (w)holomovement is held in the four 'M's: Mindfulness (the Awareness), Movement (the Process), Mindset (the Intention), Manifestation (the Practice). This is the MAGIC - the day-to-day minor course adjustments that create a frequency that resonates and then attracts a life you love.


Living with Spirit-For Real!


Living with Spirit-For Real!

I live with Spirit (who I like to call Goddess). Seriously! I do. And I've found it's the only way to live. She and I work together. Well, actually she whispers in my ear and I have learned to listen. She has taught me how to step into my body and understand the clues. She shows me signs on my walks and I notice.


I used to plan out my life. Every moment, every event, every outcome was meticulously planned out and here's the deal. My ability to plan is...fabulous - my ability to carry out the plan and for the plan to actually work...horrible. I'm sure you know what I'm talking about. Just think of every time you met someone new and as it gets serious the five to ten plus year plan that pops into your head that you just know you have to follow through on.


It's the plan that gets us. We plan and plan and ignore all the signs that tell us the plan isn't working. And then we plan some more.


So then after ever plan failed. After looking at my past and seeing one train wreck after another where plans were "too big to fail." I got so fed up I almost killed myself. And then I thought. Killing myself will just be another plan that I have to then relive and repair in the next karmic cycle. So that's not even going to work. Plus I couldn't think of a way where I was 100% sure it would work or that it wouldn't leave a mess. I admit it. I have been to the dark side and I'm here to tell the story. It's all on me - the failed plans - the not noticing - and the deciding I can do better than Spirit. And then she came to me. I was crying (super ugly crying) my eyes out and feeling so alone and miserable and I caught a glimpse of her. She was just sitting there watching me. And she let me cry and then I felt her speak to me in my heart. That this was enough. What if I gave up and surrendered my plan to Her and offered myself up as a conduit of Her work.


Super duper crazy. Who does that? Jesus...Oh yeah, Jesus did! Mary Magdalene (and wrote a gospel about love). Joan of Ark did, Mother Theresa did. Even regular people like you and me can.


We can give up on our plan and offer our lives up to Spirit.








Yes - in the beginning because we want to have a plan and know how the plan unfolds and live in the plan and regret the plan.


I say, "Wipe you ass on the plan and start living in Spirit - NOW.


Crazy. No. So what's the plan? Offer yourself up to Spirit/God/ The Goddess/Whatever as long as it's better and higher up than you think you are.


How did I get to Florida? She whispered Jupiter. And not before she told me to wait and wait and wait for an answer of what to do next in my marriage and in my life. And then in waiting...and tearing my hair out waiting.


And then waiting a little more the answer came. Not the plan, the one step into the blueprint of my life and I trust that She is guiding me into the right place and space.


What do I have to do?


Offer up my time in meditation for awareness, offer up desire to move when I want to make a move and trust the process, create a daily mindset that gets adjusted and readjusted by changing my perception of how old stories are played out and my role in them and changing them up and giving up on the plan and then setting my intention-my true desire of what's in my heart, and sticking with a practice-a daily practice of discipline and voila...the magic.


She is here.


Go call her from deep within yourself. xoxo



Power of Synchronicity Is In Noticing It


Power of Synchronicity Is In Noticing It

I believe in synchronicity. It's powerful and even more powerful when you notice it. Carl Jung first explained it as 'meaningful coincidences.' He explained them as acausal events having meaning. Usually when we think of events we think of this causing that or as just being random. But what if they had no relationship to one another other than the meaning they have for you? What if they were clues from your higher/future self or guides or the universe to connect the dots in your life?


Amy Schumer in Inside Amy Schumer on the Comedy Network Channel did a hilarious skit about the universe and the women who believe that these 'synchronicities' that come up were meant just for them.


Ok. ha. ha. ha. I get it. Total first world self-centered problems. And seriously, there is something about synchronicity. Once you notice and open your eyes to it. It's a life-changer. Really it is. I'll give you an example:


A couple of months ago I was reading about Christina Northrup and her work in Epigenetics and the work about the difference between chronological aging and biological aging. I blogged about it and the thoughts brewed. I started thinking more and more about DNA and stories we tell ourselves as true, reliving our 'true' stories' in our bodies and in our realities, creating events in our reality to substantiate the stories, and the power of thoughts on the DNA. Then a week ago a client of mine sent me the book, The Holographic Universe and it explains how we shift our reality much like a hologram and how those shifts change our DNA. Then FMTV emailed me last week a movie called Awake about DNA and the power of thoughts and noticing synchronicities in our lives that we set up as clues. Ok. I get it, I said. So what does a rational person like me do...she throws the coins and reads the answer through the I Ching...the result: Ken/Sun-"recognizing and correcting the cause of decay has supreme success. It furthers one to cross the great water. Before the starting point three days; after the starting point three days. (I won't go into all the details about I-Ching and this particular meaning other than to say that it mentioned the three days before and after which has always been my ritual for insight- a three-day-before-and-after cleanse and that it talked about myths, ancient stories and the power of false stories. hmmm.) 


"In Jung's book Synchronicity: An Acausal Connecting Principle, Jung wrote:

" is impossible, with our present resources, to explain ESP, or the fact of meaningful coincidence, as a phenomenon of energy. This makes an end of the causal explanation as well, for "effect" cannot be understood as anything except a phenomenon of energy. Therefore it cannot be a question of cause and effect, but of a falling together in time, a kind of simultaneity. Because of this quality of simultaneity, I have picked on the term "synchronicity" to designate a hypothetical factor equal in rank to causality as a principle of explanation."

Synchronicity was a principle which, Jung felt, gave conclusive evidence for his concepts of archetypes and the collective unconscious." Wikipedia


Synchronicity is a way, if we notice it at all in our daily lives, of getting closer to our path as outlined so subtly by a higher force (collective unconscious, higher self, future self, the universe). The key is to take the time to notice the signs. And taking the time to notice the signs means we have to be out of survival mode and into a more philosophical state of being.


This is what I think the Dalai Lama meant when he said, "The world will be saved by the western woman." in the Vancouver 2009 Peace Summit. It wasn't that he was dissing all other women or men for that matter. It was that the western woman has first world problems and that once she steps out of her self-centered self and looks around her in a more philosophical and unselfish and is centered on Self - she can and will save the world.


Back to synchronicity and the example. I to my mom's for Easter and noticed how amazingly young she looks and acts and she's in her seventies...give or take ten years...and she eats well and healthfully and keeps her body and mind fresh and optimistic. Then I went to Easter dinner at another friend's house and a question was asked about a book recommendation. The book was the exact book mentioned to this person earlier and what they didn't know was it was the exact book that contained some of the answers I needed about the power of the mind and the soul connection. Then the conversation came up about epigenetics and it was exactly the next connection I needed.


In the movie, Awake, Bruce Lipton says that, "genes are controlled by our perceptions and by how we respond to our perceptions." So change your perceptions change your genetics. We are personally responsible for our's our hologram.




The term epigenetics refers to heritable changes in gene expression. Where we once thought genes and heredity ruled our lives we now have to say that experiences and attitude express themselves in the gene. Epigenetics modifications can manifest as dis-ease.


Meaning: we are responsible for our lives. We have the power to unlock or lock in our own DNA code.


Then I went to lunch with a friend, a fabulous woman also around late 60's super early 70's and she brought up people and thoughts that provided more clues. Her outlook and her way of living was another living testament to the power of thoughts, intuitive eating, and how DNA can be altered by these things.


I opened a random page of Love Letters in the Sand, Khalil Gibran:


For Life goes not backward

Nor tarries with yesterday


The power of synchronicity is in noticing it and then taking the next touchstone to the next clue. Onward and upward my darling!




The Power of Rituals


The Power of Rituals

The term ritual is defined in Merriam-Webster as:

  1.  the established form for a ceremony; specifically :  the order of words prescribed for a religious ceremony

  2. 2a :  ritual observance; specifically :  a system of rites b :  a ceremonial act or action c :  an act or series of acts regularly repeated in a set precise manner

Ritual is a part of our every day lives. It's something we do ceremoniously, religiously, and in a precise manner. Just try changing it tomorrow and you tell me it's not a ritual. We get up, brush our teeth, shower, make coffee, check our phones...and most likely not in that order. I'm sure many of us have our phone right next to the bed and as soon as the alarm goes off we check who called, texted, posted on FB, LinkedIn, tweeted a pithy tweet, or posted a fabulous picture of their fabulous life on Instagram. These are technology and social media rituals. Each is a practice that has become a habit that morphs ever so sneakily into a ritual.  Checking my phone first thing when I woke up used to be part of my daily ritual.


I didn't actually think it was a ritual because where was the cloak and dagger, the burning of incense, the mumbling of a specific phrases and mantras.


Where was the ring of fire?


Where was the inner circle of initiates?


Where was the master? And then it hit me one day when I was belaboring getting up and sitting still for 15 minutes. I couldn't take the time to sit in presence with Source but I could pay homage to the


Rituals are uber important. They set the stage for all the pieces in our lives. They actually set reality in motion. Rituals create moments of magic, moments to see and to hear and to feel the hum of the universal (om - the sacred cosmic sound and the mystical syllable) and in that hum are the clues and codes to the High Self-the Universe inside of each and every one of us. I know that in repeating a ritual I am offering myself to the larger more expansive me and it reflects back into the world. Rituals are short moments of awareness repeated many times. And "short moments of awareness repeated many times become more automatic become more accessible become more continuous." ~The Mindful School. What ritual are you adding to your life today. Just a teeny tiny moment of awareness begins the journey into living a life you love. xo, j


Authentic Living: the Modern Rite of Passage

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Authentic Living: the Modern Rite of Passage

We create masks. We have the I am my work mask (more like work is my life mask), the my kids' successes are a reflection of me mask (boy, don't I know it. When Alex won a 1st Place at Pebble I wrote about it to everyone...well, almost everyone, same with Red's grades and rowing, and Dagen's rowing and singing), the my clothes, car, and house are me mask. My husband's career is me mask. The list goes on and on.


Then something rocks our world and our world as we know it comes tumbling down. They say change happens mostly in three ways: environmentally (like a natural disaster or something), circumstantially (like a divorce or marriage or job change or loss) or painfully painfully slowly. We are for the most part change-averse and I think the reason is that it requires and even forces us to unmask. And when we unmask we really don't even know what's underneath.


In ancient traditions the process of unmasking is done as a rite of passage under the tutelage of elders -those who have gone before and lived to tell the story. And while the work is individual it is done within the construct of a group. Tasks are created for each individual and the group holds the container. There are three phases that make up this ritual of moving from masked self (immaturity) to unmasked self (maturity).


In the case of the ancient tribal rites of initiation the phases are literal and again done as a group. There is the Severance - being separated from the tribe in a way that is uncomfortable and in preparation for the arduous journey of unmasking. Then the Threshold - a time of no time where up is down, down is up and there are no links to what is known to be true. It's a stripping away of each and every layer of security and habits. The initiate has to rely solely on opening the way to inner messages and hopefully some sign from the Spirit. It's a true life or death test. It's a place of uncertainty of what is real, a dissolving of everything and a shattering of the construct of the hologram of reality. and then the Return - where the inner knowing and the passing of the tests are brought back to the tribe.


But what about if you live in here and now, without a tribe, elders, shamans, or a good witch. Then your unmasking is done solo. Your on your own, baby.


I was reading about the NFL Linebacker Keith Mitchell who suffered a paralyzing injury and could no longer rely on his work and all the trappings that came with it to identify with who he was. Without the 'game' who was he? He writes, "I realized how common it is to mask our insecurities,emotions, and vulnerabilities, leaving our spirit feeling empty, detached, and unnurtured. The practice of yoga and meditation allow these hidden holes in us to be filled with acceptance, purpose, and love." ~Keith Mitchell (


We spend so much of our time covering up the gaping holes in our soul with more stuff, better stuff, and work so we can continue to identify with the stuff we already have or the stuff we want. So we decide - on one particular day where we take a look and see that it's all bullshit - to change. We decide that we're going to do the Work to unmask. And we start the process of peeling off layer by layer to get to the core. The only thing is that when we close in on the core of us we don't even know what it looks like to be core-like in our day by day lives.


I know. I've been there. And I'm still there working through it. Layer by layer, practice by practice. If anyone tells you that you can do this in a weekend or in three easy steps they're cray cray...because each time we peel off a layer we're at a place we don't recognize - we change. The world changes. Our reactions to outside influences have to change. Our old standby mechanisms don't work anymore - even if I wanted them to, they don't work. (Wallowing in self-pity with a glass of wine? Nope, doesn't feel the same. Watching TV and eating junk food? Nope, no satisfaction). So if our old standbys don't work then what? This is where a daily practice comes in. It's a must. Practice becomes habit and habit becomes lifestyle. And while we're at more licking our wounds about not having a tribe or a formal rite of passage...we's called authentic living.



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My Philosophy to Living a Life You Love


My Philosophy to Living a Life You Love

I used to think that life was all about climbing the ladder to success, that working harder and longer was the only way to go to get there, and that loving my life was something I fit into the weekends.


I used to think eating had nothing to do with my mood, that weight gain and loss had no emotional connections, and that I had to follow a diet - the stricter the better.


I used to think that others' moods were personal affronts to me, that their behaviors were part of my story line, and that my thoughts had no effect on reality.


I used to think that meditation had to be done sitting down in lotus position, that it was all about making my mind blank, and that if I didn't do it just right it didn't count.


I used to think that if something didn't go my way it was my bad luck or that the universe was out to get me, and that I was doomed to be unlucky, lonely, unsatisfied and unhappy.


And then I woke up - not right away, mind you. It took a while because I have a really thick head - no, really, I do!  It didn't make sense that life could be easy, magical, blissful and that I could manifest my dreams.


How could the Universe, God, Nature, actually have my back?


How could letting go and offering up myself to the clues and hints I began to notice have any relevance to my day-to-day life?


Let me tell you a little story. I was sitting on my covered porch of my million dollar house - how it happened is another wild and mystical story - on the Long Island Sound drinking a glass of wine and thinking I was really really sad. I had manifested my vision board into reality through a series of coincidences and yet, I was super unhappy. My wasband (the father of my children) had died the Christmas before and the husband I had was golfing, or shopping, or working. The point was I was alone in my marriage - all alone. And while I left my wasband for the safety of my children, I always somehow thought he would get better and that me leaving would be THE wake up call he needed to pull himself together for the sake of our children and for me.


Something was seriously missing in my life. During one of my attempts at meditating more than five minutes at a time I heard - in my soul - it's time to go. I followed the advice of the voice in my soul even though I had no idea where it would lead me and one morning when my husband was talking about refinancing I saw my wasband standing right behind my husband wearing his flight suit and with his arms crossed like he always did and shaking his head. Then a flock of black birds descended on my front lawn and let out a racket, sounding eerily like 'no, no, no. So I said nothing but knew I would not be signing papers for a refinance - until the time was right. And the timing would be based on a signal from the Other Side and from the Universe herself.


Ok. You may be thinking. I cannot read anymore of this because she is totally crazy. I assure you I am not - well, maybe not. I may be but I'll take my chances living like this.


Needless to say I followed the guidance shown to me by natural signals, messages, and at times apparitions. And I came away in the private overheard words of my now ex, "virtually unscathed." He meant it for him and his finances but I felt the exact same way.


The scariest part of my journey has been to offer up my life to the Universe and to follow the touchstones she shows me. I don't get to see the 'how' in her master plan for me. I get to notice a little clue at a time, like Hans and Grete's breadcrumbs. And like their breadcrumbs they have to be noticed before the birds eat them up. The bird isn't going to sit there for days pecking at your window trying to get your attention. Likewise the song you hear that seems to be telling you what is next will only play a couple of times.


For a year now I've been trying to synthesize my philosophy of four phases meant to open you up to living a life you love.

The Four 'M's are Mindfulness, Movement, Mindset, and Manifesting

Mindfulness: The Awareness

Instilling focus, clarity, and presence giving you the framework to reach the dreams that well up inside you. This is all about living consciously every day in every way. Deciding on a minute by minute basis if what you are doing, eating, saying, thinking, wishing, dreaming matches up with what your values are. This is about aligning who you want to be with who you actually are. And guess what? They may not line up and that's ok - for now. The key is to course correct and to follow your own rules on what your life means to you, not the rules of third grade, your parents, friends, society, coworkers, your inner critic. If you're a vegan and you crave an egg eat the egg. This may turn some people's self righteous stomaches but I'm being real. So I've labeled myself a chegan - a cheating vegan and I am so ok with that. I am conscious about my choices and I will accept the results.

Movement: The Process

Deepening the relationship with yourself in the present moment for a sense of calm and well-being. While you may be thinking that movement is all about actually moving your body I'm talking here about movement as the process of evolving, growing, and expanding closer to who you know you are and who you see yourself as if nothing were in your way. Little jumps, my grasshopper.

Mindset: The Intention

Creating the space for a total alignment of thoughts, words, and actions sustainably, while maintaining the thought patterns that make your aspirations realizations and make your realizations manifestations. What we say and what we do and how we think create the space for a tomorrow that is very real. We create tomorrow. Think about it this way: Steve Jobs thought up the iPhone before it became the iPhone. Thoughts become reality.

Manifesting: The Magic

Developing the daily practices to strengthen intuition, make an offering of commitment to the dream you have being realized (remember - we don't get to choose the how or even the what it looks like when it's real. We get to manifest the intention of what we want our life to look like and since we tend to think small, it's a good idea to leave the details up to Her - Big Momma Universe. 

Together these four 'M's are designed to open you up (WIDE OPEN) to live in a life you love living. I have to say that the daily practice is how the dots connect and the magic unfolds. My life is a testament to life unfolding magically through transition, heartbreak, resistance and then finally offering it up to something, Someone greater than me. Try it. Just remember you can't unlearn what you learn. xo, j


Head in the Clouds, Feet on the Ground


Head in the Clouds, Feet on the Ground

...your ability to create an authentic sense of balance with your goals and actions (dreaming vs. doing), has a lot to do with not only how effective you are in making things happen in life, but also with how much joy and fulfillment you experience. ~Oprah


I was thinking about this phrase this week when thinking of the color pink and the 1st and 7th chakras. "Head in the clouds, feet on the ground." Implies big picture thinking and detailed day-to-day action and detail-oriented thinking.


How many of us do this simultaneously?


Most of us are either dreamers or doers.


We are either right brain or left brain dominated, or we favor yin or yang. Visionary versus pragmatist.


Being both simultaneously requires we allow for day dreaming, lucid dreaming, or what I like to say setting the intention for manifesting all while honoring the daily practice of placing one foot in front of the other. Minute by minute, hour by hour day by day. We take the practice and honor the universe with a commitment to be there and to 'accept what is' while 'acting as if' the dream we intend to manifest has already occurred.


I can remember years back when I had first read The Secret I thought let me try this 'acting as if' thing on for size. I had a coat, a white synthetic shearling coat, that I had purchased at Dillard's because well, it was white and of course I need something as practical as a white synthetic fur coat in the middle of rural Nevada during one of the muddiest seasons you can imagine. Plus I lived on a gravel driveway - perfect! And it was. So I thought what if I act as if it is a very rare and expensive white mink coat. That week I had to travel to Massachusetts and of course took the coat. When I got to the airport the gate person upgraded me to Business Class. Coincidence...of course. Then when I boarded the plane the flight attendant came over and commented about how gorgeous this coat was and would I mind if she hung it with the coats in First Class. Another coincidence...of course. Then, upon arrival I was given my coat first with more comments and was allowed to deplane with First Class. And finally, after picking up my bags a couple of limousine drivers actually argued over me as a fare. I had to say, this coat is in the eyes of these two a rare and expensive coat.


Now once that happened I had to still 'accept what is' because I knew what the coat really was and I loved it as the coat it was. My life was not 'Lifestyles of the Rich and Famous.' It was 'Lifestyles of the Newly Separated/ the No Access to Joint Credit Cards - and No Individual Credit (because I believed in the Cinderella Story) and / the Gotta Turn This Consulting Gig into a J-O-B. I was banking on this so much so that my last funds went to pay for this trip and coat. I 'acted as if' and 'accepted what was' knowing that the current lifestyle was merely a temporary set back from my 'real' life which had not become a reality yet.


Careful though, because my ability to manifest like a MF brought my 'real' life faster than I thought and because I had my head in the clouds and wasn't willing my feet to the ground I manifested something that was 'real' but not in line with my spirit. I saw the signs and willed them away. I saw the coincidences but shooed them away, and I refused to accept was was.


Head in the clouds is your big picture vision. Get it clear. Feet on the ground is your intuition and the messages in the everyday and they become visible only when sitting in the practice of the now. You offer the Universe (my Whirling Dervish Goddess Isis Diana Tripoli) your time and energy and she offers up her sage guidance. You may not know why or how. You'll know the what. Follow it - and I can assure you that it's worth it. xoxo


The teacher said I had my head in the clouds
They directed, I suspected, disconnected, had it my way
On the street, I had my feet on the ground

Stood corrected, well protected, resurrected, had it my way ~ Paul McCartney, Feet In The Clouds




Pink Is The New Black


Pink Is The New Black

Pink is the new black.



I love pink. I've even dipped parts of my hair pink.



Pink is the new black.



Sweet pink in all its softness reminiscent of an Easter Brunch with a sea of pink toile and gingham dresses chasing after eggs on lime green grass. Edgy raw power pink peeking out among the thorns of a Bougainvillea bush in my courtyard showing off her admire me but don't get too close pink. And who can refuse fleshy creamy pink, sensuously showing off her lusciousness between the folds of the budding rose or on the human body.



Pink is the new black.



And I'm thinking about pink as more than a color. Pink is the invisible energetic color that opens up to love, renewal, happiness, sharing, and caring. Pink is the symbolic color of the heart. I know when you read about the heart chakra green comes up as the color to use. And true. Green is all about nature, grounding, harmony, and peacefulness. But you can't get there without pink.



Pink is the new black.



In meditation the New Age advice you to jump right up to the higher areas of 7th chakra, crown, and 6th chakra, third eye, and focus in spirituality and altruism. They really don't focus in on the lowly 1st chakra, root, and 2nd chakra, sacral. The 1st chakra is all about survival and I would argue finances and how you view money and the 2nd chakra is all about creativity and how you view sexuality...not so spiritual. And that's why I'm not New Age-like. I think it's imperative to sort out the lower chakras of self before entering into the higher chakras. Back to why I think,



Pink is the new black.



Pink is all about self-love, self care, self-enrichment, self-discovery, self-exploration. Lots of self stuff going on that isn't self-centered. It's centered on self. And when you're finally centered on self you can work with others without the mask of ego. Meaning. You can work in true collaboration instead of competition and competition masked as collaboration. When I say,



Pink is the New Black.



I'm referring to the old paradigm of competition. The color black is and what I would love to see more of...the new paradigm of collaboration-and not fake collaboration either. You know the one: "Hey, I'll scratch your back if you scratch mine." That's competition disguised passive aggressively as collaboration. 



And if you want to pack a power punch in the realm of energy pack it with pink. Pink is all about the Law of Attraction. It draws other colors to it. It plays well with the other colors. But scientists argue it doesn't exist without some major natural light bending.



"Pink is actually a combination of red and violet, two colors, which, if you look at a rainbow, are on the opposite sides of the arc. Remember the old colors of the rainbow mnemonic ROYGBIV? The R (red) is as far as it can get from V (violet). That’s where the trouble lies. Pink can’t exist in nature without a little rainbow-bending help, which would allow the shades of red and violet to commingle. This is leading scientists to believe, as Krulwich puts it, that “pink is a made-up color.” Krulwich explains:
I know, of course, that all colors are just waves of light, so every color we “see,” we see with our brains. But what this video says is that there is no such thing as a band of wavelengths that mix red and violet, and therefore, pink is not a real wavelength of light. That’s why pink is an invention. It’s not a name we give to something out there." (Time Magazine, Pink isn’t out there. Does the Color Pink Exist? Scientists Aren’t Sure, March 7, 2012)



As far as I'm concerned this proves just perfectly how magical pink really is. Pink is the red of 1st chakra and the violet of 7th chakra. You want to be with pink. 



Breathe pink and live in the moment of pink. And when you combine 1st and 7th there is no more competition only collaboration.


It is possible that the next Buddha will not take the form of an individual. The next Buddha may take the form of a community, a community practicing lovingkindness, a community practicing mindful living. This may be the most important thing we can do for the survival of the Earth. ~Thitch Nat Han




Can Business and Spirituality Jive


Can Business and Spirituality Jive

Do not believe anything because it is said by an authority, or because it is supposed to come from angels or from Gods, or from an inspired source. Believe it only if you have explored it in your own heart and mind and body and found it to be true. ~ Buddha


I'm just finishing reading The Enlightened Leader: An Introduction to the Chakras of Leadership by Peter ten Hoopen and Fons Trompenaars and in it they talk about enlightenment. They define enlightenment as "not about becoming, but about being. Enlightenment is not about action, but about awareness." And awareness is how we "raise our consciousness." If you think this book is about to go woo woo think again. I love that the authors are using this term in a technical sense to "indicate a process of enhanced pattern recognition: the discovery of more links between nodes of information about the self and the world." They specifically rebel against the holier than thou notion of "raising consciousness" in the New Age world hierarchy of enlightenment. Hence the quote from Buddha.


One of the things that drives me absolutely bonkers is the commercialization of spirituality and the constant chatter of guides and gurus who claim they can get you there in 3, 5, or 10 easy steps if you just take this online course, go on this retreat, or listen to this podcast. OK. I'm off my soapbox and back to the larger topic at hand - the intersection of business and spirituality - a topic I find absolutely fascinating.


I've been grappling with the notion of what it would look like to overlay the chakra system onto a business structure, namely the corporation. What if a corporation was a body? It is legally. It enjoys most of the rights of an individual. It can enter into contracts, borrow and lend, sue and be sued, and own and lose assets. Sounds like a body to me. It has a mission, vision, and purpose just like another other energetic body. Right? Even the word corporation itself means in Latin to combine in one body. What if it was one body spiritually and energetically as well? Now we can take the process used in discovering ourselves on a transpersonal level and use language that aids in shifting on a systemic level.


My LifesPath process has 8 touchstones corresponding to the chakras that when applied helps us find our life's path. They are:

  1. groundedness
  2. creativity
  3. action
  4. self-respect/self-love
  5. authenticity
  6. self-awareness
  7. alignment
  8. connection

In looking closer at the words its not about finding our life's path but of uncovering and awakening to our power, purpose, and power from within which then brings us square onto our life's path. No struggle to find. Work to create awareness. Shifting the language from finding to awakening opens the door to conversations about the intersection of business and spirituality. In The Enlightened Leader there are 7 levels of enlightenment. They are:

  1. awakening awareness
  2. awakening social consciousness
  3. awakening self-respect
  4. awakening Heart Power
  5. awakening connectedness
  6. Discovery of the Secret
  7. Assuming the stance of a leader

States of being which then allows for a process to be applied to course correct. At the same time I was reading this book I heard Christina Northrop say in a podcast "Life is a series of course corrections. The flight from New York to San Francisco is never on course, its always course correcting." I was a First Class Flight Attendant on those very flights. The way to stay on course is to do the touchstones, the way you know where you are on the course is to check where your levels.


One is the how the other is the what.


Truth: Where the Magic Happens


Truth: Where the Magic Happens

Truth is where the magic happens but first you've gotta get through fear.


I used to think fear was a guidepost to change. And you know what? On the surface, yes, its true, fear does signify change. It says "yoo-hoo" change is coming.


Change is coming.


But dig a little deeper and we can see that change is coming and we don't want it to. We sense the change and we feel the fear of the change. You can smell it. Change. Fear. Change. Fear. Fear. Change.


Animals can smell fear. It's real. Animals can sense change coming.


Fear has a real physical and chemical reaction in the body that others can sense and change has a real physical and chemical reaction on the body that most can't sense - unless they're empaths and highly developed intuitively. 


Back to fear being a guidepost to change. I'm thinking both fear and change are guideposts to something else. And that something else is truth. Fear is the guidepost to truth with the road being change. And depending how clearly we 'see' truth depends on how bumpy the road is going to get. And here's the deal, truth will show up whether you want to see it or not. 


Truth is the core of the work and fear and change are necessary components to truth. You know you're on the right track if you sense yourself feeling fear and resisting change. The body will tell you its coming.


That why animals sense it. It's real.


Truth is one strong goddess. She's a bitch! (I mean this in the nicest most admiring way) She really is. Veritas (Aletheia) the Goddess of truth is the daughter of Saturn (Zeus) and Virtue. Her opposites are Dolos (trickery), Apate (deception), and Psuedologoi (lies).


Go figure!


Trickery, deception, and lies are the mile markers to knowing how far away you actually are from your own truth. These are the masks we wear to stay safe. Truth requires us to be open, transparent, and authentic. Veritas is often depicted nude holding a hand mirror. Truth is naked and self-reflecting. Seeing what is and not what we wish. Standing in the actuality of reality without the prism of perception. Perception is the filter not the reality. And because perception can be shifted, altered, disseminated, and inserted upon, stories can change and when stories change the fear lifts and the truth of who we are shows up. And showing up open, transparent, and authentic life is beautiful and magic happens. Truth is where the magic happens.







Do you Choose Unhappiness over Uncertainty?


Do you Choose Unhappiness over Uncertainty?

Knowing that you are choosing unhappiness over uncertainty is a hard pill to swallow but it's the pill that leads to the cure-all...excitement for life again. We fear uncertainty. We fear the unknown. We fear stepping off the certain path and venturing down a path that has not been worn down.


Robert Frost so eloquently muses about moments in our life where we can choose uncertainty in his poem, The Road Not Taken

Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,

And sorry I could not travel both

And be one traveler, long I stood

And looked down one as far as I could

To where it bent in the undergrowth;


Then took the other, as just as fair,

And having perhaps the better claim,

Because it was grassy and wanted wear;

Though as for that the passing there

Had worn them really about the same,


And both that morning equally lay

In leaves no step had trodden black.

Oh, I kept the first for another day!

Yet knowing how way leads on to way,

I doubted if I should ever come back.


I shall be telling this with a sigh

Somewhere ages and ages hence:

Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—

I took the one less traveled by,

And that has made all the difference.


What is excitement? Isn't it just fear flipped?


I often ask my clients to dig down into the actual sensation of fear versus excitement. And often the conclusion is the same. The actual sensation of the butterflies in the stomach and the saliva building up in our mouth is the same. What's different is the perception of what can or will happen. If you were waiting in line for a rollercoaster and you were the next one about to get into the car, if you were worried about the car toppling over or some other tragedy, you would register the sensations as fear. If you were excited and just loved the thrill of the rollercoaster, you would register the sensation as excitement. Same sensations different perceptions.


Do you choose unhappiness over uncertainty?


Do you choose comfort over luxury?


Do you really think you were placed here on this glorious earth to stagnate. Do you really think you are the only one that the universe wants to ensure that you have a comfortable yet numbing life?


In honor of Valentine's Day, I'm asking you to love yourself so much that you choose uncertainty over unhappiness. And that by doing so find luxury over comfort.


The luxury I'm talking about is a love fest with your higher self, not Prada, Gucci, and Pucci.


"You have comfort. You don't have luxury. And don't tell me that money plays a part. The luxury I advocate has nothing to do with money. It cannot be bought. It is a reward of those who have no fear of discomfort." ~Jean Cocteau


Luxury. For Your Soul. Starts with embracing discomfort (moments where those nasty "negative" emotions take over. Fear, shame, guilt, sadness, anger, boredom, lack and others are direct messages from the universe to you that you are veering off your soul's path. Whereas excitement, love happiness, joy, contentment are messages that you are moving closer to or are already on your soul's path) and moves to having no fear of discomfort. Reward yourself with that luxury today.




"Perception is the Co-Pilot to Reality" ~Carla Harris


"Perception is the Co-Pilot to Reality" ~Carla Harris

I got a great surprise the other day. I opened my text and my stepdaughter Sam had sent over a clip from her Makers Conference 2016. Carla Harris is Vice Chairman, Wealth Management, Managing Director and Senior Client Advisor at Morgan Stanley. She wrote the books, Expect to Win and Strategize to Win which expand on what she calls her pearls of wisdom.


""Carla’s Pearls” have become the centerpiece for her many speeches and television appearances. In Expect to Win, Carla shares these valuable lessons, including:

  • Authenticity: The Power is You
  • The 90-Day Rule
  • Perception is the Co-Pilot to Reality
  • The Mentor, The Sponsor, The Adviser: Having Them All
  • Leverage Your Voice
  • Balance is a Necessity: Use Your Passions to Achieve it
  • Expect to Win: Show Up With Your Best Self Every Day" ~


My biggest takeaway from her speech at the Makers Conference 2106 is that "perception is the co-pilot to reality." And all the other bullets fall under that umbrella. Get that one right and you're off and running to manifesting a life you want and one you deserve.


What people think of you when you are not in the room is your perception capital. It's what is real for them and let me tell you, it becomes real for you. So I may think I am organized, strategic, and powerful or that I'm welcoming, energetic, and understanding but if I don't convey that to others through my actions on a regular and very consistent basis others will not think of me that way.


Carla talks about using three adjectives you want people to describe you as when you are not in the room and then training yourself to be those three adjectives for 90 days. The key here is that we can train people to think about us the way we want them to think about us. It requires as she says to "manifest your behavior." The behavior creates the reality! Her one word was tough. I won't be a spoiler but it's super funny to take a look.


And within that takeaway of perception being the co-pilot of reality is the notion of currency which I have talked about before in terms of currency being an exchange of energy. In looking at money as currency I have discovered that money and time and passion are all interrelated. We don't need to give up time and passion for money. That is the old paradigm of currency.


Carla talks about two forms of currency: performance currency and relationship currency. The first one is performance currency: that which is asked of you and a little bit more. The challenge with this currency is that it has diminishing returns because at some point your "little bit more" will be considered the norm for you. So while you are working towards scaling over that ceiling you're stuck in the average arena.


The second form of currency is relationship currency - investments that you make in the people in your environment. And this currency is the powerhouse. It allows you to rise up and to as she states, "maximize your success for the seat you're in or the seat you aspire to." This currency requires that you understand and take action on the perception front and do it with complete authenticity.


Back to the three adjectives. Know what the words are to you and how they can increase your capital in your reality. And then make sure that these three words align with your work and are valued by your organization, clients, or field of interest.


It's time to get together with your higher self and have a little pow wow around the words.


I had a meeting with my higher self and then I asked my daughters and son what three words they would use to describe me. Interestingly enough they were very, very similar. Nice.


My three adjectives are: Welcoming, Energetic, and Understanding/Intuitive (Ok, so there are 4 - time to drill down).


What are your three adjectives?


My War with Protein is Ovah!


My War with Protein is Ovah!

So there I was at Dr. Roselli's office - which by the way I absolutely love him. He's just opened RevitalIV here in Jupiter...(more on that experience below) and I was flipping through Elle magazine and came upon the article Fill 'Er Up by Rachel Baker.


In the article she talks about the new book Always Hungry by endocronologist, nutritionist, and pediatrician David Ludwig, MD, PhD. "Ludwig's philosophy is that by "ignoring calories and targeting fat tissues directly" - with a low-carb diet based on "good fats," legumes, non-starchy vegetables, and a wide array of proteins... - you can reprogram "fat cells to release their stored calories...shifting metabolism into weight-loss mode" and eventually find your healthy set point, i.e., the weight your body "wants" to be."


"The weight your body wants to be." Sounds so much like how I was told to eat when I went to see my sister in Roma!


Yes! That's it!


Our body knows what it needs and what it wants and when we follow it the excess drops off. Our bodies know and we can no longer believe the lies:


Lie #1: All calories are not created equal. Processed foods are an atomic bomb to our cells and our DNA not to mention our hormone and blood sugar levels. They also lower our vibration levels basically making us feel like walking zombies, aggressive lunatics or downright pieces of shit. 


Lie #2: Low fat is good for us. After taking the courses and becoming certified in Plant-Based Nutrition at Cornell University taught by T. Colin Campbell (who wrote the book The China Study) I was furious. How could we have turned against avocados and oils and be convinced that eating low fat was as close to perfect eating we were going to get. Wrong. Good fats are what keep us going and what keeps us from getting hungry and going after the processed foods.


And now...(drum roll)


Lie #3: Animal protein is a killer. I've been a vegan for a long time now and firmly believed that all my protein could come from plants. Wrong. First of all, we need a little death, i.e., B12 and B3 which both come from animals and decay. I had thought I could get as much as I needed from a pill. Wrong.


Back to the doctor's office. I had gone in to get all my levels checked, micronutrients, hormones, metabolism, blood sugar, cholesterol, oxygen in the blood, you name it I tested it. And what I found was shocking. Conventional doctors had prescribed B12 subcutaneous pills and shots and insisted that my tired feelings were merely premenopausal symptoms. They were wrong. They had retested to see if the levels of all the Bs actually went up and when they didn't they prescribed higher doses. Here's a secret. I have a gluten intolerance to American wheat. (don't laugh it's true.) The wheat here in the States has two extra proteins and I can't process it. So while my guts tried for years to compensate it became harder and harder to absorb vitamins. Now take away the natural way of getting the Bs and I'm basically a undernourished person who while juicing feels great but get me back to a regular food diet of veggies and carbs and well-not so good. My B12 and B3 was super super low. And no I'm not premenopausal. I'm vitamin deficient! Imagine that!


While this was all going on I had a visit with my peer coach and soul sister for a couple of days who urged me to take a bit of egg. So two boiled eggs a day later and the weekly IV filled with nutrients and I am back to looking and feeling better than when I was 20 and I'm 48 in February. No more cravings, no more hunger, no more tiredness. Up at 5 am without an alarm clock and in bed by 11 feeling fab!


So here's the plan to get your body back on track according to Dr. Ludwig:


Phase one "Conquer Cravings" - 50% of calories come from avocado, oils, nuts, and heavy cream (yup, heavy cream); 25% from non-starchy vegetables and legumes; and 25% lean proteins (lamb, chicken, eggs, etc.)


Phase two "Retrain your fat cells" - add grains and quinoa


Phase three "Long-term maintenance" - 40% fat, 40% carbs, 20% protein.


You'll love the book and your life.






Welcome To Wonderland: Your Commedia


Welcome To Wonderland: Your Commedia

Dante's Divine Comedy was originally named the Commedia. I loved this epic poem in high school and in college studied the art work of Florence supporting the visions of Dante. And then, I forgot all about Dante until two years ago when I went to Rome and from the corner of my eye in Trestevere saw a plaque that said Casi di Dante on the side of a tower which housed many lectures dedicated to his work and then I forgot about him all over again.


That following Spring I went to Upaya in Santa Fe, New Mexico and was introduced to the work of Roshi Joan Halifax. In her book, The Fruitful Darkness she talks about her journey and what I call the process of 'soul' initiation. "The process of initiation can likened to a "sacred catastrophe," a holy failure that actually extinguishes our alienation, our loneliness, and reveals our true nature, our love. That is why we seek initiation: to heal old wounds by reentering them in order to transform our suffering into compassion."


I went searching for what was real for me and learning that luxury was no longer found in my precious LV, Gucci, Ferragamo combinations, it was to be found in the soul. Luxury. For the Soul.


Three phases of initiation come up all which are done as a rite of passage in ancient times and in indigenous cultures but not in the here and in our now. We don't have time. Easier to just pop some Wellbutrin, Adderal, Lexapro downed with the appropriate swill of a nice Barolo. And if we have the time we don't really want to see what's behind the mask because if we do, we'd have to make some serious changes. We may even leave our lives that we know behind and walk the gang plank. Hop, hop, hop...overboard and that's scary. It's heart wrenching and then it becomes laughable. Really? Yes, really it does. Once all the layers are peeled off and we're left with ourself, in the flesh. We can see it's a divine comedy, a commedia (pun intended.)


The three phases of initiation are according to the Dutch cultural historian Arnold Von Gennep described as separation (down the rabbit hole we go), transition (the Mad Hatter's Tea Party - the unbirthday party, the Mushroom screaming "Who are you?"), and incorporation (deciding what to do when the Queen of Hearts screams off with your head!): The Severance, the Threshold, and the Return.


Dante returns to my life in reading The Heart Aroused and I was reminded of Dante's three cantos: The Inferno, Purgatorio, Paradiso - sound familiar.


Dante's Canto I The Inferno (Longfellow translation) begins:

"MIDWAY upon the journey of our life

I found myself within a forest dark,

For the straightforward pathway had been lost.


Ah me! how hard a thing it is to say

What was this forest savage, rough, and stern,

Which in the very thought renews the fear."


We can stay in our slumber or we can take the step and down the rabbit hole we go...Welcome to Wonderland, your Commedia. xo, j



Moment Of Truth


Moment Of Truth

"...A man or woman often seems to begin the journey to soul recovery in this very lonely place of self-assessment. The uninitiated call it depression.


When all the things we want beyond our reach move slowly within our reach, it is easy to feel good about life. But if our sense of well-being becomes dependent on the constant delivery of goods to our door, we experience a sense of loss when the supply suddenly dries up, or we no longer perceive it has the same value. At this point, we are thrown back on ourselves and must live on what we find there. In a way, we are finally forced to rely on the one thing already within the compass of our grasp - our soul's natural entanglement in the world. This entanglement is often perceived for the first time through a sense of loss. It is as if we first stumble into our belonging by realizing how desperately out of place we feel. This sense of loss has a natural way of drawing us inside ourself. We might at first label the body's simple need to focus inward depression. But as we practice going inward, we come to realize that much of it is not depression in the least; it is a cry for something else, often the physical body's simple need for rest, for contemplation, and for a kind of forgotten courage, one difficult to hear, demanding not a raise but another life.


It seems that to find the real path we have to go off the path we are on now, even for an instant, and earn the privilege of losing our way. As the path fades, we are forced to take a good look at the life in which we actually find ourselves." ~David Whyte, A Heart Aroused