Knowing that you are choosing unhappiness over uncertainty is a hard pill to swallow but it's the pill that leads to the cure-all...excitement for life again. We fear uncertainty. We fear the unknown. We fear stepping off the certain path and venturing down a path that has not been worn down.
Robert Frost so eloquently muses about moments in our life where we can choose uncertainty in his poem, The Road Not Taken
Two roads diverged in a yellow wood,
And sorry I could not travel both
And be one traveler, long I stood
And looked down one as far as I could
To where it bent in the undergrowth;
Then took the other, as just as fair,
And having perhaps the better claim,
Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
Though as for that the passing there
Had worn them really about the same,
And both that morning equally lay
In leaves no step had trodden black.
Oh, I kept the first for another day!
Yet knowing how way leads on to way,
I doubted if I should ever come back.
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
What is excitement? Isn't it just fear flipped?
I often ask my clients to dig down into the actual sensation of fear versus excitement. And often the conclusion is the same. The actual sensation of the butterflies in the stomach and the saliva building up in our mouth is the same. What's different is the perception of what can or will happen. If you were waiting in line for a rollercoaster and you were the next one about to get into the car, if you were worried about the car toppling over or some other tragedy, you would register the sensations as fear. If you were excited and just loved the thrill of the rollercoaster, you would register the sensation as excitement. Same sensations different perceptions.
Do you choose unhappiness over uncertainty?
Do you choose comfort over luxury?
Do you really think you were placed here on this glorious earth to stagnate. Do you really think you are the only one that the universe wants to ensure that you have a comfortable yet numbing life?
In honor of Valentine's Day, I'm asking you to love yourself so much that you choose uncertainty over unhappiness. And that by doing so find luxury over comfort.
The luxury I'm talking about is a love fest with your higher self, not Prada, Gucci, and Pucci.
"You have comfort. You don't have luxury. And don't tell me that money plays a part. The luxury I advocate has nothing to do with money. It cannot be bought. It is a reward of those who have no fear of discomfort." ~Jean Cocteau
Luxury. For Your Soul. Starts with embracing discomfort (moments where those nasty "negative" emotions take over. Fear, shame, guilt, sadness, anger, boredom, lack and others are direct messages from the universe to you that you are veering off your soul's path. Whereas excitement, love happiness, joy, contentment are messages that you are moving closer to or are already on your soul's path) and moves to having no fear of discomfort. Reward yourself with that luxury today.