"Embrace the suck": Translation: The situation is bad, but deal with it. Embrace the Suck: A Pocket Guide to Milspeak Copyright 2007 by Pamphleteer Press.

"Embrace the suck" is a phrase I have learned to love...I mean really love. While most think of bootcamp, pain, enforced suffering, and just, well, a "this sucks situation" I think of it as being awake. Alive. Awake. Alive and fully experiencing each moment as it comes. Living with what is.

To "embrace the suck" is a way of life. To me it means to experience everything fully and to dive into life - all of it.

In the article, Why Embracing The Suck Is the Key To Setting Yourself Free, Anthony Meindl is describes the term as a Buddhist concept. He compares the military personnel as having no choice in a given situation and so embracing the situation instead of denying them.

"The Armed Forces have no other choice. If they’re out in the Iraqi desert or in the mountains of Afghanistan, the only way they’re going to get through those challenging experiences is by embracing (rather than denying or ignoring) them.

But for us with our modern conveniences and propensity for denial, we can distract ourselves, numb ourselves, fool ourselves over and over to avoid, disconnect, ignore, postpone, procrastinate and put our heads in the sand when we don’t want to look at what is."

Read more: http://www.careershifters.org/expert-advice/why-embracing-the-suck-is-the-key-to-setting-yourself-free#ixzz4JiV5Ph70

Meindl continues by saying that by denying the "feelings of discontent" we actually prolong the suck. "So even though “the suck” sucks, the prolonging of it makes it even suckier. For longer. If you don’t square up and face your career discontent, you'll just prolong the agony.

So why do we do it?

Habit.

In the long run we’d be much happier, expressive and creative if we rebooted our neural wiring and developed a different habit. But in the short-term, we’re willing to sacrifice our long-term goals and possibilities because the moment would require us to let go of habits that keep us stuck. The alternative is the unknown, which is scarier than “the suck,” so we just hang on to the old neural wiring."

Interesting. By not embracing the suck we prolong the suck and by denying the suck we prolong the suck. We get so used to the feeling of pushing away what we actually feel that we continue it. We space out into the world of drudgery and we prolong the suck. Meindl quotes David Whyte, a poet I adore, "Anything or anyone that does not bring you fully alive is too small for you."

Where are you playing small? Dig deep and embrace the suck because by embracing the suck, you'll begin to see where you need to rewire and change some habits that need changing. You may see that the suck is self-induced.



 

 

 

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